I’m Not Here to Be Consumed. I’m Here to Contribute.

For a long time, I believed that being seen meant being available. Available to explain myself. Available to perform my healing. Available to be liked, understood, validated, or forgiven in public spaces. I thought I had to post here make fluffy content and while I respect the hustle and the business. I don’t believe that I have to bend anymore.

I’m not here to be consumed.

I’m here to contribute.

That distinction has changed how I move through life. Being consumed asks for constant output. Photos. Updates. Proof. Access. It turns life into content and worth into engagement. It rewards loudness over depth and speed over integration. It asks us to package ourselves in ways that feel disconnected from what’s real.

Contribution feels different. It’s quieter and slower. It’s rooted in intention instead of reaction. It asks what I actually have to offer, not who is watching.

Over the past couple of years, especially through sobriety, grief, and deep internal change, I’ve learned that my most meaningful work doesn’t happen online. It happens in real conversations. In showing up consistently. In staying when things are uncomfortable. In choosing honesty over smoothing over uncomfortable feeling or moments.

I don’t want to sell a persona. I don’t want to live for an algorithm. I don’t want my healing or my life to become something people scroll past and forget. What I care about is impact, the kind you feel in your body, not your feed.

Contribution for me, looks like creating spaces where people feel safer in themselves. It looks like telling the truth without dramatizing it. It looks like doing work that doesn’t need constant applause. It looks like trusting that the right people will find the work when it’s meant for them.

This isn’t about hiding. It’s about boundaries.

I can be open without being exposed. I can be proud without performing. I can be devoted to my work without turning my life into content.

So if you’re here, welcome. What I share will be intentional. Events. Writing. Things I’m building. The rest of my life, the most important parts, will be lived offline.

I’m not here to be consumed.

I’m here to contribute.

And that’s enough.